My brain is fried atm with perimenopause, caring for an elderly parent with dementia and parenting two teens, I just hope I'm supporting my DD as much as I can right now.
DD16 turns 17 in May.
We have a close relationship and she tells me a lot. She is still a virgin and says she only wants to lose her virginity to the right person, at the right time and only when she is ready. Most of her friends have lost theirs and regret who they lost it to. Many have boyfriends and DD says they do 'stuff' with them that DD would currently not be happy doing (with a huge amount of porn about these days. I'll leave that to your imagination).
DD gets a lot of attention from boys her age via Snapchat etc and likes to chat. Most are local lads and from her old school/college.
However, after a while so many become quite possessive in the way they talk (wanting to know exactly who else she talks to/asking her to delete all other boys from her contacts...) and some have even started throwing in a lot of emotional blackmail her way. One boy said she was his only friend and that his dad hits him and she must never stop talking to him. Another lad who she was very close with at school has found out she is dating someone and now keeps telling her he can't live with this information and is cutting himself every day and sending her photos of his arms with marks over them. She had quite a close relationship with this lad at secondary school and feels bad for him.
She started a weekend job in October and got chatting to a boy who.is her age and always on the same shift. They get on really well and chat a lot (both at work and online every evening). I have met him a few times now and he seems a nice lad, very polite. They decided to start officially dating a month or so ago but as soon as they did he went out and purchased condoms (he is a virgin too) assuming they'd have sex right away. DD says this has put her off a bit because all he now keeps asking is when will they be having sex. She has told him she is not ready yet and wants to take things slowly. He then started talking about oral and said he'd make it easier for by drinking pineapple juice (god knows what he's been reading about blow jobs!).
Tbh, DD is quite a young minded 16 year old and just wants to go out and have fun right now, to date and have a laugh. This boy doesn't want to go anywhere, he either wants to come to ours and hang out in her bedroom or for her to go to his. He has asked her to go round his today but his parents are at work. She's not keen and neither am I. I've suggested they go into town, watch a film or have pizza somewhere etc but he's not keen. He seems more keen to lose his virginity right now.
I've suggested they aren't compatible at this moment in time and she should end it but she says she likes chatting to him, they get on well and if she finishes things they have to work together which is going to be very awkward and it's so hard to find teen work in our area.
I don't know what else to suggest other than for her to stick to her guns. I've told her it's her body, her rules and if he can't accept that right now then they aren't right for each other.
There's not much more advice I can give, is there?