Struggling to talk to my 15 year old son

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What do I do and how do I know if your being too much and being over protective with your teenage son. Struggling to have conversations with j son to see how he is in his head. Not because I don't love him he's my world my only child. Am I being paranoid help x feel like he hates me for his past and mine

Welcome to teenage hood, 1 which I wouldn't want to go back to.

You need to work on being happy and confident within yourself. It will make you a better anchor for the family and turn the stress levels down for both of you. If two people are in a state of turmoil it just creates a feedback loop.

Don’t ask him anything for now. Keep things light. Have fun. Watch comedy together. Treat him to a few hours out somewhere he’d like to go.

Why would he hate you for his and your past? Has he been exposed to abuse or addiction or something else? How long has it been this way?

I game with my teen a few times a week, we cook together, sometimes we meet after sports and talk about what they did in class, that sort of thing. We don't have regular 'deep' talks, more like, 'I'm meal planning, what would you like this week', or 'do you fancy going to the cinema' sort of thing. Mornings are a grumpy time, I avoid any conversation then as I find the stroppiness a bit upsetting so I pass a hot drink and leave.

Aww thanks I do those things too I just feel guilty he's seen domestics between me and my exes (1 being his dad) and I think he takes his anger out on me verbally or hides away in his room I just want to make sure he's OK but think I'm pushing him to much to talk to me mabe? I dunno just sometimes I feel like a falire, and guilty all the time lol x

Thankyou x😊