16-18 year olds and money?

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Do you give your 16-18 year olds money/pocket money?

What about if they are working?

Ds is at 6th form and working and saving but it isn't covering all of the things he wants to do. Not sure how much to help him.

Doesn't help that he's blooming ride and moody most of the time.

My 16DD is supposed to do her chores by Sunday in return for £12.50 pocket money a week. Not done it this week!
We also pay for most things she needs. She's trying to get a job but it's a bit tricky round here. She's rude and grumpy too so I'm not feeling my usual generous self!

Mine are older now but I don't recall giving them money when they were working .

we give DD £60 a month (& pay for her phone & train pass). She works as well & depending on shifts is making a few 100 a month on top of that. My theory is that I want her to have time for college so want to offer enough money to be okay, but not so much that she doesn’t have an incentive to work!

I have a dd18 and a ds17. Both are still at school and have part-time jobs but the jobs are in the hospitality industry so the hours can vary. We pay for their phones obviously and gym membership, driving lessons etc but don't give pocket money. However, they are regularly asking for "the loan of a tenner" or money for lunches out etc transferred to their bank accounts. Definitely an expensive period of childhood in my opinion!

Mine are all in their 20s now, but yes, we continued to give pocket money when they started PT jobs. Seems a bit odd not to, as where's the incentive to work otherwise? Their willingness to do (what, if we are honest, are quite often unpleasant or at least dull) jobs, is motivated by earning themselves money. If you then take away the £40 or whatever you were giving them each month for doing nothing, where is the incentive to work ?

Don't know how relevant it is, but we didn't give anywhere near the amounts of pocket money that often get discussed on here.
But I think parents decide if pocket money stops when they reach a certain birthday, or when they leave school or whatever, and be consistent with that for all dc, not reward those that don't work and punish those that do.

DS is still at school so rarely needs money for things but when he is at college next year he will get £100 pm for lunch and a bus pass if he wants one (depending on where he ends up he might just walk there). I pay for his phone as well.
He isn't too bothered about clothes but I buy him what he needs and he gets nice trainers for bday or xmas

We give £100 pm for clothes, toiletries, make up, eating out, social spending. She does have a job but it's in hospitality and hours vary wildly as pp said upthread. We pay phone contract and driving lessons.

Mine are adults now but we paid for
Phone
Bus pass
Toiletries
They had the family allowance each month
And both worked part time jobs

No sixth formers should have an allowance which covers transport, clothes, socialising and lunch.

Helps them learn to budget before University.

For a variety of reasons DD is not having a p/t job, she is in Y13 and plans to go to uni in September.

We just increased her allowance to £200/month. She has to pay for her food at school, clothes outside what is required for the strict school dress code, make up, going out, hairdresser now.

She set up a standing order to a savings account to save for larger purchases.

We pay for her phone. She can take snacks we buy with our normal shopping to school and we buy basic toileteries as we share some things anyway.

My DD (17) gets £20 a month pocket money from me and I pay for phone & gym.

She earns anything from £400-£600 a month and half of that is saved so I don't mind giving a little pocket money.

Mine is now 18 and has worked in Waitrose since he was 16. All day Sunday and one evening. He brings home about £650

I cover his contact lenses at £33 a month and I buy the odd takeaway for him / hoodie / treat etc etc. I'll sometimes cover his college bus fare of £15 a week, and I buy his treat food, such as the sushi he loves and his protein shakes

All in all, I'd say I end up giving him probably £80-100 a month all in all

However - he's not rude to me! Well, not often - he's not some sort of teenage saint! But he generally has his manners and will seek me out a fair bit to chat etc

If he was rude then I wouldn't sub him at all

I give my son £120 a month, he's 16, and that covers school.lumches, whatever is left he keeps, it's made him make better choices as just chooses a sandwich and a drink rather than all the crap. He's never rude and works hard so I'm happy to give him it.