Looking for some advice. Our DD 13yo was recently in hospital with acute kidney injury for a week. We could not get to bottom of what caused it and the tests were all inconclusive. However, obviously made us concerned about what she may be getting up to. Since getting home we have been stricter on our rules around phone use, implementing a 9:30 cut off on electronics during week and 10:30 at week-end. This has been a bit of a battle (we had implemented it before but had got slack at enforcing).
Last night after another battle to get the electronics off her I had a scroll through search history and some of her snapchats. Can see from that that she has been vaping and also some references to having drugs. I'm not convinced she does have drugs tbh - think it may be for show but still really cnocerning for a 13 yo.
Discussed this morning with DW and plan to speak to her this evening. Anm worried though that she will b extremely resentful over the 'snooping'. I have said in the past that I reserve the right to have a look at stuff as she is young and I pay for the phone. But I don't want her to become even more sneaky...Any tips on how to approach this? We're thinking of bringing forward electronics off time to 9 and making it a hard no to parties, sleepovers etc until we're confident she is fully recoered from the AKI and not doing stupid, dangerous things like vaping (and possibly drugs)...