What is parental ‘guidance’ (Scotland)

[HollyIvy89]

I am struggling to find much information

Parental responsibilities are brought to an end when the child reaches 16 years of age, however, there is still a duty to provide guidance to the child until they are 18 years old.

my 16 year old is so vile to me. Verbal abuse. Occasional throws things. Threats of running away. Doing what they like as I’m ‘16’. Every conversation is met with anger, screaming and name calling.

Where would she go if she moved out? What support would she get. Am I still responsible?

I have involved camhs, school and support groups and I have learnt lots of strategies and have been trying to walk away as much as possible. No one is involved anymore to help. I think they just think it will be ok. I walk on eggshells and feel like I am living under control.

I think you have legal responsibility for them until they are 18 but are no longer responsible for having to house them in your home if you don’t want to/ child can choose to move out. Someone else may be able to expand further but regardless…

re-engage with school, camps, support groups. It’s not fine so go back to them for further support.
it doesn’t matter what age she is- 16/18/21/40, officially she doesn’t need to be there. It’s your house. Sit down and discuss expectations and ground rules around behaviour/ her contribution to household and remind her what you do in return. If she lives there she follows the house rules or you help her look at options to move out.
The support groups and school should be able to point you in the right direction of viable alternatives