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14 year old son

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Theysaidthiswouldbefun · 23/01/2025 08:45

Hey just looking for a handhold really. I have 4 children and am co parenting with their dad who was abusive to me in our relationship. I initially tried to get full custody to stop the father having a negative influence on the kids but failed. He sees the children 2 nights a week on average. My daughter put me through hell as a teen and now she is nearly 17 has calmed down and is even nice at times. However my now 14ds is starting with the temper tantrums when he argues with his sibling. I have twin ds who are 11 so I will have the teen moods to come with them in the future too. I’m feeling pretty blue about it today like I know I just have crap behaviour ahead for the next 6 years from my children. I’m trying to fight the lurking depression that it’s causing with positive thoughts and exercise. I’ve have well and truly had enough. I thought life would get better when I left their dad but no it seems I still have abuse but now from my own children. I’m not helpless and it isn’t physical at least but emotionally it’s tough. Any positive stories would be appreciated today. Also as I will in total have 4 teenagers I would like to invest in courses, books and any practical advice on how to navigate this tough time so I can do the best job possible. Does anyone have any suggestions? I though my 14ds might benefit from the gym ? Or is that just helping an angry young man become stronger thus potentially cause more damage to my home? He currently punches walls and smashes up things when in a rage. Thanks in advance

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Springflowersmakeforbetterhours · 23/01/2025 12:50

A boxing gym.... It takes skill and much much discipline... It absolutely does not encourage violence... My ds 14 was off the rails. Supported by twat ex wanting to be The Cool Parent... The coaches encourage a healthy lifestyle... And focus...
My ds also punched walls. And a mirror which needed surgery for..

He ended up in the army at 18. He came out the army 4 years later an absolute bloody amazing young man. . Always in there but needed guidance beyond me...
Let him give it a try at least.

Theysaidthiswouldbefun · 24/01/2025 13:17

Thanks for the suggestion and the positive experience. I’m glad your son has come through it and you have a nice relationship. I will look into this thank you

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