Boyfriend staying over

[Frostybee]

Looking for some advice, DD is 18 home from uni and seeing her BF he is 18 also. They've known each other for 6 years and dating for 9 months. DH isn't happy about him staying over and in her room and I think it's ok. Be good to see what the general thoughts are around this?

I mean, I understand not being happy with it but I'd expect if you don't allow it, she won't be home as much.

This.
We are in a similar position - in fact so similar you could be DS’s girlfriend’s parents.
We do let her stay here because we initially said no and we didn’t see him for days.
They are planning on getting a flat with a couple of friends from university so letting her stay here saves them a lot of money until September when the van try and get a place at student rates.

That's exactly how I see it too. DH seemed annoyed as they were in her room when he came home from work. She said they were lying on her bed fully clothed

I know it's not an easy one is it?! The thing is he's been to visit her and stayed with her in the uni accommodation.

They're at uni, it's a pointless hill to die on at this stage. Your husband just doesn't like the transition from child to adult being so obvious in front of him, which is a him problem, not a daughter problem.

What's his objection? Does he think they should wait until married?

At 18, they are both adults.

I know that's what I'm thinking. I said it's not like we're living in the 1940s!

Thanks everyone! x

They are both fully consenting adults in a relationship. What is there to say no to? It’s not like your DD is bringing home ONS to your house. It’s certainly an adjustment but your DD is not doing anything wrong. Your DH simply has to get used to the idea that she is growing up and he isn’t the only male in her life anymore.

Does your DH not like his DD because he seems to be creating problems that will lead to him, and probably you, seeing a lot less of her.

They’re both 18! They’re adults. Good way to push them away..

Similar situation here tho son and gf are both just turned 17. They’ve been going out for 11 months and over Xmas he asked if he could stay at her house then the inevitable request for her to stay here came.
We allowed it, it is weird as a parent seeing your child make that major transition to adulthood but inevitable, I have to say my dh seemed to struggle with it more than I did which surprised me.