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GCSE Resits / mental health

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irishstew · 05/01/2025 17:44

I'm really worried about 17yr DS and the GCSE resit cycle of misery. He has taken Maths 3 times and English twice and each time he gets a 3 and feels like a failure, He is regularly spiralling into negative self talk, episodes of depression and anxiety. The episodes are all triggered by any mention of resits and tutoring etc. He is currently not at college (due to return in September 25) to complete the second year of a media course, but the thought of returning to Maths and English lessons triggers his mental state. I had hoped by having time out of college this year that he would consider focusing on at least one of the exams but whenever we mention it he spirals. I'm at a loss as to what to do. I've accepted that he can navigate life without English & Maths; if he really needs it he could go back to it later in life. He was 5 marks off a 4 in Maths last time, so he was close but he couldn't bear more tutoring or exams. Not sure why I'm posting; I feel heartbroken to see DS this way, he is a creative, sociable boy, we're exploring ADHD assessment this year and will also try to get him to a counsellor for help; I'm angry that we are subjecting our young people through this horrendous cycle when we should be lifting up our youngsters to learn skills for their futures not crushing their mental health. I'm worried that he won't return to complete his course.given that maths and english will still be compulsory for him.

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HoundsOfHelfire · 05/01/2025 17:51

What about a media apprenticeship? This would require functional skills maths English which are much more achievable

Octavia64 · 05/01/2025 17:53

Once he has turned 18 he does not need to resit.

So if he turns 18 before he goes back to college he doesn't need to resit.

Some students find functional maths easier (and some don't because it is a lot more wordy)

TeenToTwenties · 05/01/2025 17:57

I would massively recommend finding a tutor and doing level 2 functional skills English. My DD did it jan-aug last year when she was on a 'gap year' and now doesn't need to do english resit at college. It is all the useful bits and none of the esoteric stuff. We did each bit separately, the reading, the speaking and finally the writing when her confidence had increased.

Re Maths, DD is attempting GCSE again this summer. For her I'm not convinced the FS would be better, but it is 1 exam not 3 and again can be done whenever.

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