For the last 5 years my son has been difficult but in the last year he has become out of control. He finished schooling just about not passing any GCSE’s. He started missing classes and smoking vapes and weed. I would ground him etc. I believe once he left school and started college things would get better but they didn’t. One month into college he stopped going and in the end got kicked out. For the past two months he has refused to do anything. He goes out and comes home stoned and smelling of weed. Grounding him no longer works as he will just walk out. I don’t give him money. I’ve refused to let him back in the house and a few times I’ve made him sleep in the car. I’ve threatened to kick him out if he leaves the house. This doesn’t work hence why he ends up sleeping in the car or sometimes I refuse to let him back in. Usually only for a few hours. I’ve tried talking with him. I’ve offered to get him help. I’ve asked him what he wants in life. We’ve set goals. I’ve praise him when he’s done something good no matter how small i.e tided his room, applied for a job. I have did my best to listen and support but I am now getting tired of it. Every day he’s getting high. He has lost so much weight. He’s 6ft and 50kg. He won’t see a doctor, he won’t do counselling. I don’t know what to do. It’s destroying our lives.
I also have a 14 year old son. My partner of 8 years moved out as he couldn’t deal with it anymore. His dad is useless. I’ve also beat leukaemia twice first time in 2018 and second time 2023. I know that was a lot for the boys both did have counselling.