How to help my miserable teens

[Newyearsametroubles]

i have no idea where to turn. My children take it in turns to be in the deepest of crises. My middle one is unbelievably angry w me, and terrible to us all. This clearly comes from a terrible place within them - they are not an awful person. But it’s too much - I can’t manage. And whatever I try, things seem to get worse. I can’t overcome what is happening by loving them. We are in such deep crisis I have no idea what to do any more. Middle one (girl) has just battered me. I don’t know what to do.

@Alikelypath777 you have been so kind and helpful, and I think those threads may well be useful at some point. Just not right now, when things are so hard to look at already - I don’t have capacity to think about others’s struggles… Today I DO have faith that things will improve, but it’s hard won. What I need now is people like LD (sooo good) who can give me little glimmers of things I can do now, to make today a little less terrifying and difficult. don’t feel in the least bit bad - all your suggestions were so wise and helpful. Thank you

Good luck to you both Newyearsametroubles
I do understand and the the up and down nature of these things.
Sending solidarity.