Fed up with being the bad person

[Feyra25]

Son who is 17 has just come back from staying with ex for 5 days over Christmas was ok at first said he happy to be home( never really enjoys it for anything longer than weekend) His girlfriend came over which was all good then after she went we were having a chat and because I asked some questions which weren't horrible or intrusive he just turned and said I have just said all that why you asking more questions. I was flabbergasted gone from a normal conversation which to be honest is rare lately to that. I'm so sick of being the bad person all the time. I give him his space and don't poke my nose in and I get treated like a housekeeper . Apologies but just needed to rant

I think it really depends what the questions were or how he might perceive them. I know you said you give him space but if you are asking lots of questions about his time with ex and/or his girlfriend that kind of contradicts that. It's hard as they get older so I definitely sympathise though.

Questions weren't about ex and his time there I have learnt from.past times not to ask. I asked him if he had made any plans to meet up with his friends seeing as he hasn't seen them before going back to school. That is all I said . It's like he doesn't want me to know anything about his life and it's such an inconvenience that he has to be in the same house as me at times but then he wants me to take him out for driving practice. It's like it's all what he wants and I'm just there for him. It's getting me down

Normal 17 year old behaviour I think! I have one too!

MessyNeate thanks but it a bit shit isn't it . Hate it because we always had a pretty good relationship.

My 19 year old can be like this and was def like it at that age. I can ask 'who are you off out with tonight?' And he'll say 'friends' so I'll ask which ones out of curiosity and he'll get annoyed and say 'just my friends'. Then another time he'll come to me with problems in like, his girlfriend and his friend's problems and want advice. It's def on his terms though. I'm either the advice giver or the annoying mother- it depends on his mood.