Should I buy him condoms?

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Hi my DS is 16 and I'm pretty sure he may have had sex with his GF. I was thinking of buying him a box of condoms, and saying it's not that I'm giving him permission to have sex, but that I want him to be safe if he is.
Is this a good idea?
I know it'll be embarrassing for both of us. My ex is useless and speaking to DS about this stuff, so not leaving it to him to do

I had a conversation with my son, he was 17 as was his girlfriend.
He was very sensible about told me they used condoms every time and that his girlfriend had had the implant fitted.
I expected it to be awkward but he was very mature and it put my mind at rest.

I put a box in the drawer in the bathroom, no big speech just practical help

Is sex something you talk about normally? Have you previously spoken to him about STIs and testing for them, contraceptives and their pros and limitations, menstrual cycle and no 'safe' time. When I used to teach sex ed it was astounding what misconceptions teens had and it's worth making sure you are well informed before accidentally passing on old wives tales to him.

If not do so, buying the condoms is no different than buying a girl San pro and needs to be done as factually and as a non event as that to keep lines of communication open.

Buy them, chuck them on his bed with a note saying “stay safe x”

You don’t need to have a big awkward conversation about it.

We have left an open box of them somewhere obvious where our teenage son would "accidentally" find them and made a joke about where they are.
If his manhood is not adult size then you'll need to get him something like Ceylor Tight Hotshot or Durex Slim.

Far better he is safe, over everything, I think. Agree with the above advice, just put the johnnies somewhere he can find them.

Of course. I explained to my 16 yr old DS there were several options and asked how he would feel about them:
She gets pregnant and aborts his baby
She decides to keep the baby but doesn’t want him involved.
She keeps the baby and he has to work out how to be a parent while going to uni.
I also explained that having a baby would have far more impact on her life as a teenager who wanted to go to uni than on his.
You can’t stop them having sex. I let them have sex in our house (with her parents permission) because I wanted them to be safe. I was teaching at the time and my yr 11 pupils told me about doorways and park benches.

i so wish my parents had encouraged me to use proper birth control as a teenager. Condoms can break, they forget to put them on etc, I would be very concerned but understand you may feel her decisions are not your business.

Do you know the girlfriends parents? Worth a confidential chat and say you believe they are having sex, will they also check she is okay and not in need of advice but too nervous to ask.

speaking as somone who got pregnant at 16.

I bought ds his first box. No one want to talk condoms with their mum, the trick is to be matter of fact about it. I told him instructions would be in the box and he might want to practice with a few alone first 🤦🏻‍♀️

Have a look online, or ask your ds as his friends/gf might know already, to find out where young people get access to free condoms in your area and make sure he knows how/where and gets over the embarrassment of going. If they are old enough for sex they are old enough to get their own supplies.

In our area there is a C Card app and they don't need to ask, they just show the chemist the screen with the app and their selection and they get given 3 x 6 packs of condoms. He told me after he'd got some the first time and we had a laugh about it and I told him that was great as I didn't want to know, and I'm sure he didn't want his mum to know, how many he was getting through! After that any conversations we had were focused on consent and respect.