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Carol52 · 30/12/2024 21:49

My son is 18 and went in town with his friends today my daughter went with her friend a sister of one the boys.
They all usually go to a van rehearsal but decide not to go it. Tonight the bands have a bit of a gig for the teenagers at a working man's club.
I said my 13 year old daughter could go but only if my son stated.
He did not stay I am waiting gotten to gone hone.
Now my son wanted a few friends for a party tomorrow but I a really annoyed neither child has reflected my rules about tonight.
Sm I being mean to cancel having their friends round tomorrow.

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DelilahBucket · 30/12/2024 22:08

Have you been drinking OP? I don't think it's fair to expect your son to babysit when he's gone out with his mates.

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Carol52 · 31/12/2024 09:44

DelilahBucket · 30/12/2024 22:08

Have you been drinking OP? I don't think it's fair to expect your son to babysit when he's gone out with his mates.

I never drink the condition was he would stay with her

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DelilahBucket · 31/12/2024 10:06

Carol52 · 31/12/2024 09:44

I never drink the condition was he would stay with her

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Your post was very difficult to understand but you should not have put that condition in place in the first place. Letting him go out with his mates at 18 and have his 13 year old sister tag along isn't fair on either of them.

Lightswitchup · 31/12/2024 10:13

I just wouldn’t be allowing that kind of arrangement again.

Lindy2 · 31/12/2024 10:21

You were posting this last night too and got lots of replies. Why are you posting again?

An 18 year old out with friends isn't really going to want to have his 13 year old sister tag along.

It would be different if it was just your son and daughter going somewhere alone together but in this instance they were part of a group. Did she stay with the other girl or some of the group so she wasn't alone?

You're the parent. Not your son.

I'd have a word with them about keeping safe but I wouldn't cancel your son's friends. He is 18. Not a child.

If the working man's club isn't a suitable place for a 13 year old to be perhaps your daughter should wait until she's a bit older to go, or go with a parent.

Landlubber2019 · 31/12/2024 10:29

I would not want a 13 yr old girl hanging out with 18 yr old boys.

I would not allow my 13 yr old unaccompanied without proper adult supervision in a working mens club at night, surely it's for 18+ only.

I would not consider an 18 yr old sibling as a suitable supervisor when out with their mates.

This is wrong on so many levels !

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Carol52 · 31/12/2024 13:07

Landlubber2019 · 31/12/2024 10:29

I would not want a 13 yr old girl hanging out with 18 yr old boys.

I would not allow my 13 yr old unaccompanied without proper adult supervision in a working mens club at night, surely it's for 18+ only.

I would not consider an 18 yr old sibling as a suitable supervisor when out with their mates.

This is wrong on so many levels !

The gig was actually for bands attending a club they were all u day 18 in the bands anyway

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