Do 15 staying away from the house

[SugarPlumpFairyCakes]

in the evenings until 11.30pm because he says he doesn't like being here in the house.

He's met a girlfriend. They're seeing each other almost every evening. He'll go to the gym, go back to hers and rock up at home at 11.30pm.

Every morning I have to go into his room five or six times to get him up for school.

His grades at school are good so far but I know they'll slip if he isn't focused and managing to balance everything.

He says he hates being at home. Looks at me with contempt when I say he has to be home by 10pm at the latest and he should only see his gf at the weekend.

I mean it's not great at home. Every morning, it's a stress and a hassle to get him and his siblings out the door because he goes to bed so late despite my telling him to go earlier. So the atmosphere isn't great.

But I just can see things becoming unmanageable for him with his being spread too thinly. He loves going to the gym. This gf clearly makes him happy although he has said she's very needy too.

Do I leave him to make his own judgment or do I insist on certain house rules being observed and then he turns even more against me?

He's 15 and still at school, he needs a curfew during the week

He is the kid still. You are the parent. Decide a time and he needs to be home by it. 100%.

Plus make sure you have some massive chats about sex/ preventing pregnancy. If they are together that much in the evenings they are highly likely having sex. And no, no teenager uses condoms well enough to have that as their only contraception.

You need a curfew at 9:30 and if he breaches it he doesn't get to go. You can also enforce it in these other ways:

1. You pick him up from gf's house
2. You get hold of the parent and say you need to have ds home by 9:30
3. You invite gf over and take.her home.at 9:30

I have done all of those btw and worked well!

He's still a child and he needs to be at home earlier.
Where is he, at GFs house?
Can you get in touch with her parents to ask them to send him home? Or just go there to pick him up?

11.30 seems insane. My 16 year old has a 9pm curfew on school nights and is expected to stay home at least 2 nights. Could he have the GF over? I still have to wake him up multiple times no matter what time he goes to bed though, I think that's just their age.

My 14 Yr old has to be home 9pm weekdays 10pm weekends end of conversation your the parent kids need to be taught and understand why we do these things they might not like it but tough its your house you're the parent and rules are there to be followed in my house if they aren't followed then there's consequences no spending money etc luckily my 2 are actually good at helping and even getting up in.the morning

We've had a chat. He's now home at a good hour.