Introducing boyfriend to daughter

[Stephanator]

I've been seeing a guy for about a month now and we made it official last week - I have a 14 year old daughter, any ideas on how and when to tell her about him?

Does she know you go out dating / to meet people?

But it s been one month
It s no time at all

Personally, I wouldn't be introducing them until 12 months.

Still too early. Try and build it up a bit about how you are going for a date, tell her where he took you for a walk, dinner, etc firstly for her to come to acceptance you are even dating before just straight up introducing her to him. Obviously suss him out yourself of course to make sure he's safe to be around your daughter too.

It’s too soon. Keep your lives separate for at least a year

After a month I wouldn’t even be thinking about introducing. It’s way, way too early. 12 months at the very least & even then, v v slowly. You have no idea of you will even like this guy after a month. Keep it well separate.

Not for a long time. She doesn't need distractions at the moment. Assuming she's doing her GCSEs, your love life is of no consequence to her and she doesnt need to compete for your attention at this stage.

One month of dating is hardly any time at all. Whose to say you're still together after Xmas? How well do you know this man? He might annoy you so much you need to dump him. In which case, waste of time for your daughter to get to know this man.

I haven't explicitly told her I was going on dates but I haven't been actively trying to hide it - she probably has an idea, but I agree with people that I should wait until next year

You don't, for a lot longer.

I've owned cheese longer than you've had this boyfriend and you're already wanting to introduce him to your daughter...

A year to 18 months and don’t let him move in or move in with him. Such a vulnerable age for teens!

A year feels like a long time to me, and I say that as someone who’s dating a guy with a DD13……we’re 9-10 months in and I see her regularly - we do trips out, meals out, meals at their house, film nights snuggled under a blanket, I’ve met a couple of her friends, she invited me to her school carol concert, and she doesn’t mind if I stay over! She found out we were dating quite early on (unintentionally!) and I’d met her once before we were dating so initial introductions weren’t too awkward. my house, his house and her mum’s are all quite close so we also figured it was easier to meet properly as dad’s girlfriend than us bump into her out n about during a time she’s at her mum’s!