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Advice needed on how to tackle online bullies

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Uglyducklingswan · 03/12/2024 19:46

So my DS, (Yr 9) is dyslexic and has been having some very harsh treatment in a group whatsapp with some of his tutor group peers.

The kids in question (not all his group) are mainly teasing him for his spellings and calling him thick, deliberately laughing at his English mistakes and making a point of correcting all errors but in a very condescending way, including using swear words towards him, telling him to STFU for example.

So far he has blocked the specific people involved and left the WhatsApp group. I have told him he should only be groups with people he wants to be with. (I mean they’re 13/14 year olds anyway most of what they post is memes and pictures of their pets!)

Before he left the group I put a message on there making it clear I was his parent and I was monitoring their communication and that they needed to stop the bullying and bad language.

Unbelievably one of the problem kids actually replied to me saying he was only correcting spellings to be helpful! As if I hadn’t seen all his other derogatory remarks towards my DS.

anyway, my questions….

I know the two kids’ parents a little bit. Shall I share the messages their little angels are putting out there? Or do I go straight to their tutor and let school deal with this?

to be clear, they don’t have their phones in school, the messages are happening outside school time.

thanks

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TwixForTea · 04/12/2024 10:49

Hi,

i assume you took photos of the messages before he left the group so you have evidence?

I probably wouldn’t get over excited about the swearing on its own - a lot of lads I know tell each other to F off all the time in a jokey way. But in context of the unkind and cruel comments, it’s not a good look for these boys.

I would be send photos of the messages directly to the year group leader. Ask the HoY to reiterate to the whole that they are each accountable for their behaviour online and to explain what would constitute online bullying.

I would not approach parents as you don’t know what reaction you’ll get and what retaliation may be visited on your ds

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