Who would you say is a gentlemanly/chivalrous famous man?

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I was hosting a bunch of my daughter's 17/18 year old friends at the weekend. They were very drunk and one of the boys displayed some dodgy behaviour towards one of the girls who was even drunker. I berated him and told him it was unacceptable. I told him that he should always try to be respectful and be a gentleman and would have liked to give an example of someone that he would have heard of who is known for being a gentleman/chivalrous. A good male role model. Kind of along the lines of how people would say "what would the queen do" ? about the old queen. But I couldn't think of anyone in the moment. Even now I am struggling to think of anyone. David Beckham maybe? Who do you think is a genuinely decent guy?

Harry Kane would be another good bet for someone who likes football.

Oh yes definitely Andy Murray.

Kevin Sinfield. Jonnny Wilkinson.

Harry Kane seems genuinely a nice guy

Definitely not Beckham

Weeeelll, I'm bigly disappointed that my name has not yet appeared, and we're on Page 2!

I think it needs to be real life examples. None of us know what the celebrities are like, it would be so unrelatable for a teen. They need good solid people in their lives to learn from, not what a famous person 'presents'

Is there anyone within your family/friends that fit the Bill? Someone who models good behaviour? And what about examples of women who take no shit from drunken oafs?

David Schwimmer.

Barack Obama

I think berating his behaviour would be more effective than a name of a celebrity. I would be highlighting "dont be a creep" rather than be like a particular celebrity.

Well done for looking out for girl and calling him out on his behaviour.

Martin Kemp.

He needs to be taught about consent, not told to be 'chivalrous' or 'gentleman-like', or behave like some male celebrity who may turn out next week to have feet of clay!

Is it wrong that I thought "Beckham is who you came up with?" 🤔

I also thought David Attenborough.

Marcus (Sp?) Rashford

Jason Manford (haven't heard any stories but stand to be corrected) - he's very much a family man and talks respectfully of his DDs.

Wasn't he awful to Amber Heard while filming the aquaman sequel?

Marcus Rashford was a bit of a party animal in Northern Ireland.
It is so difficult to be a role model all the time, and mobile phones mean every moment is caught on camera.
Locally we have a lovely man in his seventies who is chair of the soccer club. I'd be devastated if I ever heard a whisper of scandal.

Have you no nice men in your family or the child’s family ?

id be wary of using celebrities as we know little of them
fantasy characters would be better like modern James Bond or harry potter

I think young people often take more in when they have the opportunity to reflect on behaviour. Would he appreciate seeing a man behave like that towards his sister or his mum? If his sister was drunk in public or at a party, what would he hope her male friends would do? Why then did he not treat his friend the same way?

I've seen Tom Holland a few times in real life and he comes across as a really lovely guy - very humble and family oriented.

The Rock is another one I can think of.

Unfortunately I think celebs have a higher than average rate of dickish behaviour due to sense of entitlement, used to women being all over them etc. So wouldn’t go down the celeb route.

”Would you want someone treating your sister that way” (if he has a sister) might be more effective. Or “if someone behaved that way in a movie what would you think of them”.

Echo Keanu Reeves and Andy Murray. Someone like Harry Styles might resonate more with younger people.

Could there also be someone in your actual real life? I had a dearly loved uncle, Charles, who was the absolute model of a perfect gentleman. And I even used to tell boyfriends (prospective or actual) that I expected them to live up to his standards!

Jason Manford was involved in a sexting scandal

Ally McCoist, Louis Tomlinson, James McAvoy, Daniel Radcliffe, Neal McDonough, Paulo Nutini.

The late Paul O'Grady.

Yeah, not so sure about Jason Mamoa. https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/newsbeat-41608851

For his jokes about rape?