Lack of interest in anything

[Dolphin78]

I think this may be a familiar topic…
DD is almost 14 happy with a good group of friends and spends a lot of time watching Netflix in her room. She always had a lot of interests and got involved in after school activities and even had an Etsy shop making bracelets. She made £150 at a school fair…but now doesn’t do ANYTHING unless her friends are doing it.
This evening she pretended to have a headache to get out of netball AGAIN.
so I contacted the coach said I’d had enough of the weekly avoidance and told my DD she could organise getting herself there in future and mark her own availability as she’s not interested and I’m over arguing about it every week.
She put netball down for Duke of Ed but wouldn’t talk to the coach about getting the weekly sign off and let one of her mates sort it out. The skill I sorted out an app for cooking but she makes a million excuses about why she hasn’t started and the volunteer aspect well I’ve just stopped asking.
Im not sure what to do apart from let her ask for help or guidance when she wants it. Does that sound reasonable as I sound like a broken record but just saying OK sort it out yourself seems pass agg!
Ive done years of getting her to netball at 6pm and I’ve warned them both (DS) if there is resistance going to sports clubs or anything else I’m paying for then I’m done.
Single parent and pretty much pay for everything and run them around all week while navigating a full on job ( contract ended last week so currently out of work is probably not helping)

I think 14 is the age when a lot of old interests get dropped. If you feel you've made a reasonable amount of effort to keep it going without avail, I'd definitely just step back.

I had a similar experience with DOE and ds ended up just not completing it (it's not compulsory and dd was the same) m

What is she watching on Netflix?
Having an interest in films and tv can lead to many hobbies and events (eg attending comic con style meetups).
Maybe she is just bored of netball and DofE.
She has school to concentrate on and her free time should be to do what she wants (within reason obvs).
If she seems happy and school is going well leave her be.

Thank you for the advice!

Take the TV out of her room! Support the DofE but don't try and do it for her as that rather defeats the purpose. I think a lot of kids make decisions about sports and hobbies at this age, particularly as school work intensifies or sports reach a level where you've got to be very dedicated (and good) to keep competing.