DD is scared of the dark... help!

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I'll keep this short, DD (17) is scared of the dark.

She has a part time job as well as college, but won't leave the house on her own. It's reached the point where she is spending more on taxi's than her wages, and refuses to get on the bus despite the stop being outside work and the top of our street.

She's begged for me to drop her off/pick her up from work since the clocks changed, so I'm out at all hours and I'm exhausted.

How do I stop this/help her? She just refuses to be independent, won't learn to drive, and if I say no to a lift, she asks other family members who oblige.

What would you do??

Let her get in with it. You are under no obligation to give her a lift if she is being awkward about not learning to drive.

We insisted on our children learning to drive, it's very important to be independent.

She doesn't need to drive, as public transport gets her everywhere she needs to go. It's just the issue that she won't use it after dark, and driving would be a compromise.

Ultimately I can stop but she'll just ask other people instead. It's getting her to be independent that's the issue.

Say no. Stop facilitating her. If other family members want undermine you and give her lifts then let them carry on, I suspect they will get bored eventually!