On the outskirts

[Worrywart78]

Dd1 struggled with friendships in secondary school. She’s now in sixth form and got a lovely group of friends around her. They hang out together at breaks and lunches and she’s started to blossom. However she’s come home upset as the group are going out together at the weekend and she’s not been invited. She doesn’t think it’s a snub as they went out together during half term and things have been the same as usual today. They haven’t hidden the meet up from her and been chatting as usual.. She doesn’t want to mention it and feel like they are inviting her out of necessity. I’ve suggested she plans something for everyone to do and show them that she’s interested in meeting up.
what Advice do you have?

No not me! First time I’ve posted about this as it’s the first time it’s happened.
it’s a mixed boy and girl group so no boyfriend/girlfriend dynamics.
thanks for your support!

Is she sure she hasn't been invited? If the group are chatting openly about the meet up when she is there it sounds like maybe they think she is invited too?

Exactly!
I do wonder if they have presumed she’s busy or not interested. From what she’s said it certainly doesn’t sound like she’s been ‘snubbed’. I suggested she say something like ‘oh that sounds great- is there room for one more?’ But obviously I know nothing about anything!
thanks Landline x

Probably not a case of people being invited as just inviting themselves. I mean just saying, I’m up for that and turning up. Are things like this maybe mentioned on their social media pages and Dd just missed it somehow? Just a thought.

Thanks for your replies.
I think dd is just too polite and still doesn’t quite feel comfortable in this new relationship BUT she actually listened to some advice from me! She reached out to the person she’s closest to in the group and to cut a long story short she’s off out later! 😁 really pleased for her and fingers crossed it all goes well.

That’s great news.