DD mood swings

[pumpkin1976]

I have a 12 year old DD, changed so much over the last several months. Started her periods age 10, always regular and to be honest there were no mood wings, hints of hormones for the first 2 year of her periods. She handled them brilliantly.

The mood swings have really kicked in now. Goes from crying, angry at herself and the world to then rolling around giggling, joyful and super happy in about 30 mins, it's very exhausting. The swings don't correlate with her periods. We are tell if her we love her, are there for her and it's hormonal. I definitely wasn't like this as a teen but I'm reaching out to see if others DDs have these extreme mood swings. I know her brain is developing, the emotional bit can't handle the extreme feelings she's having. Shes an only child and I need some reassurance crazy mood swings are normal! Shes not horrible to us, very caring it's just the crying then laughing that drives me round the bend 🥴

Shes in school, school is her happy place although it knackers her out. Loads of friends.

please tell me this is all normal, I feel like I'm losing the plot x

I was like this as a teenager. It's not normal, Since being an adult iv been diagnosed with multiple mental health conditions but realistically it's probably undiagnosed autism.

thanks for responding. It's hard as I don't want to medicalise my daughter at the moment but will definitely keep a close eye on things. The change has happened since starting secondary school, but coincided with a massive growth spurt. She looks so much older than her age group. I don't think she meets the criteria for autism, she's never struggled with many of the areas on the spectrum and I don't think she masks things (as I know a lot of girls do) I will keep an eye on that too though. She does have some anxiety, generalised which I think is connected to the hormones, as again none of this was present before she started secondary and this growth spurt. We are looking to get her some support for strategies with anxiety. School is fine, no issues whatsoever, she meets up with friends, is independent. You can almost feel the hormonal shifts sometimes x

Same here. I remember being a bit like this at 14 but no where nearly as bad.

However I think a large part of it is down to her mobile app use. Her anxiety is definitely worse when she’s been sat on her phone all weekend at her dad’s. This week I’ve deleted the lot, made her get off her phone and help me with stuff. We’re on day 4 and - fingers crossed we’ve had a ‘normal child’ last night and tonight.

I’ve also sat with her whilst she’s done her homework for company.

Same with a very tall 11 year old who looks older than her peers. I’m sat listening to her sing whilst drying her hair.

Sunday night we had, crying in bed curled up- -
Im fat ( she isn’t)
My skin is disgusting ( it isn’t)
I’ve got no eyebrows - she has
Ive got no friends ( she has)
‘Dont feel right’
Hates school and thinks about walking out.

🤔

I also see some connection with when my daughter is on her tablet or phone. We've talked about doom scrolling and the effects. She will come off when I ask her. Daughter is now happy at her desk doing her maths homework, which she forgot about. She says her head feels really scatter brained and she doesn't know why she either feels ectastic or teary. She's apologised as I think she knows it can be draining but I've said it's okay, we ar here for her.

we did have a good few months of stable emotions in sept and oct but the anxiety and craziness has reappeared. Best wishes as I know it's tough for all of us coping with teens! I would add that my daughter loves cuddles, is thoughtful and is a beautiful sensitive soul (I hate moaning about her so trying to see the positives!) hugs x

@pumpkin1976 same here. They are still only little really and I think I forget as she is taller than me! Time to pull back under the wing for while x

It's so tough on them, I wouldn't want to be a teen in today's world. I'm sat with my daughter keeping her company while she does her work 😂 the anxiety is more worrying, as she's very much like her dad and he had bad anxiety before she was born. I see similarities. She gets so upset as she doesn't know why she feels the way she does as she says she's happy, has friends and loves life, therefore she feels it's unfair to have these intense emotions and anxieties at times. Hugs x