Apologies for the long thread, bit of background. I’m a single mum to two my eldest who this concerns is 15, basically an argument kicked off with him and his sister after dinner, over the tv again, my son lost his shit saying he hates living with her she’s selfish (she has been really tricky lately, but I’ve cut her some slack as she’s hormonal and also had a falling out with her dad.) I do my best to keep everyone calm.
My son got really aggressive and pushed her, I separated them immediately he calmed down and apologised which she accepted.. I sat him down and talked to him sternly that he shouldn’t have done that. Anything like that is classed as domestic abuse and he must never do it again.. didn’t feel he took me seriously enough. So I asked my partner who I’ve been with for 6 years, (he doesn’t live with us, but they see him a lot and he’s been extremely supportive to us) I really needed him to help support reinforce that he needs to learn to control himself and we do not push siblings etc.
So this is how the situation gets a whole lot worse.. my son listened to my partner about controlling anger and not being childish but he answered back with ‘oh like you do, when you walked out on Saturday
night on my mum, who was childish then?’ (we went out Saturday night for a family party and he complained when we got home the house was cold, so I jokingly said well go home then so he got up and went slamming the door on the way out.) It was a silly argument between us and my son should not have brought this up, but he said he hates hypocrites!! My partner said he’s going before he loses his shit, again slamming the door on his way out. I spent half an hour talking it through with my son. He’s neurodivergent and getting a bit stressed with mock exams. I had about 5 missed calls from my partner so I called back he then ranted at me, he’s disgusted in my son, he never wants to see him again.. he’s not welcome in his house. Said if his own son ever spoke to him like this he would be devastated.. basically in my opinion completely over reacted..please let me know your thoughts, I wish I hadn’t involved him.. but I just needed a bit of support. I know I need to be harder on my kids and I am a bit of a push over at times 😔 feel so upset about the situation…