Ds and gf started going out in March. He’s gone to Uni about an hour from home. Gf still at home. She visits ds every week for two nights (three full days). He’s in halls, and this is the “rule” 2 nights, one guest max. His flatmates are ok with her there. Although he’s done a handful of, what we would describe as, uni things, he’s shaping his routine around her visits. And we know he’s missed out on quite a few social/club type things. He’s also there with a small group of friends from Sixth Form, and he’s pretty much sticking with them (I suspect this is because it’s easier for the gf too). I really feel he’s limiting his experience at Uni. I’m not talking about shagging around, but embracing the opportunities to get new friendships, explore his new city etc. I am very mindful that he’s an adult now, and his choice but I really want to sit him down and tell him he’s missing out because of the gf. Even if she went up every other week it would be better. Will I make it worse if I do? His gf is a complex one, and I worry she’s living through him so she doesn’t have to face up to the issues she’s facing at the moment. A lot of people said, oh it won’t last, but because of the way he shapes things around her visits, I think it will - but at a cost to him. It makes me very sad.