At wits end, advice needed

[Highlandcoo5]

Looking for advice please. My 19 year old son has his gf stay at ours on a Friday night, both my husband and I work a Saturday morning. Although my son does try to be quiet, they are coming home at 2am and both my husband and I are getting woken up, my husband is like a bear with a sore head when he is tired. This is causing arguments between my husband and I to the point I am feeling stressed and anxious now.

My husband (married for 2 yrs) is not my son’s father (we split up 5 years ago) and my son and husband do not get on. I feel very stuck in the middle and don’t know what to do. I have spoken to my son about the time he is coming home when we have work the next day but as a typical teen he does not see anything wrong with it. My husband has now said if that continues he won’t be living with us.

Agree completely. I would not put up with this. DS20 and 17 know that this would be completely unacceptable in our house and if they tried I would make it clear that they need to stay elsewhere.

Most of the time they don't start out not getting on.

I think he has a point.

Have you even read my comments, your comment in uncalled for, unkind and rude. That is not what I did therefore if you have nothing constructive to offer please do not comment on my post.

When I first met my husband long before he moved in, he got on well with both my kids. My son is protective over his dad and I guess felt my husband was taking his place which is not the case at all. His dad and I split as his dad had multiple affairs which my son knows. Neither my son or my husband have done anything the relationship has just broken down and my son has no interest in mending it, they are polite to each other in passing that is as far as it goes.

my husband and my daughter who is 14 get on great and go out on off-road bikes together and have great fun.

Once a week on a Friday night doesn't sound too unreasonable to me. Some 19yo probably do this most nights

I was on the sons side until your update. I absolutely would not be putting up with this. I would tell your son the gf can't stay when they go out, that's not on. Even worse that you have to work the next day