Would you move 13 year old school and home?

[TaraW20]

We are weighing up options of moving house or renovating our home.

Or has anyone moved a child at this age? What was your experience?

Would you move your 13 year old child?

They have a couple of good friends and their school but don't see much of them outside of school. Does great in school as well so for these reasons reluctant to move but...

We stay in a smallish place and out of the way from family that help us with childcare.

We need an extra bedroom for when people come to stay to help us out with childcare and stay in a small bungalow. We sleep in the livingroom when we need someone to stay but the bathroom is right next to our bedroom so wake people up anyways when getting ready for work.

We considered building an annexe in the garden (which 13 year old could use in a few years as their own place). But it's nearly as expensive as moving to a 4 bedroom house. This would mean moving out our area and about 20 miles away.

Ideally not but I would obly do it if he was definitely be in the new school at the start of year 10.

If you’re going to do it, you’re best doing it now before they start GCSEs as it really wouldn’t be fair to move them in the middle of those.

Moving schools so you have a spare room for guests seems extreme? I would prioritise your son here.

We have a 4 year old as well that we need childcare for.
Also we are in an area where there isn't much as where we would move to I.e swimming pool, activities, gym, etc

Moving schools at that age was awful for me. It took me well over a year to settle. I never joined the clubs I did in my old school. I made friends but it took a long time.

Don't do it

No I wouldn't

Why did you need someone to stay overnights for for childcare??

I wouldn't, it would be a very difficult move for them

Move now before 4 year old starts school too. 13 year old will make new friends especially if there are more opportunities to socialise outside of school.

I would move, it’s nicer for everyone to live in an area with more activities.

How does your DS feel about it?

Unless he was completely up for it and understood the potential consequences then there is not a chance I'd move.