Hey,
Just wanted a bit of advice really. Teen DS is 13 and likes going out socialising with his mates in the evenings after school. He usually stays fairly local and we ask him to be in by 9.15pm at the latest for him to have a shower, wind down etc ready for bed for 10.15 ish for school the next day.
I’m finding lately though that he’s really pushing the boundaries. Last night being a prime example of this.
Went out at 4.30 with mates, told him to be back in by 9.15…. Get a text off him at around 9.15 saying he was playing football with mates didn’t notice the time and could I go and pick him up. He wasn’t exactly round the corner though so it was a 10-15 minute drive to go and collect him.
I got there and noticed he wasn’t where he had asked me to meet him even though I told him to wait there and I’d be straight up to get him. Tried calling him - answerphone, battery had died. Tried then ringing his mates phone who he was with who said he wasn’t with him and was with some girls they hang around with the last time he saw him. Baring in mind, I don’t have these other friends numbers. So there I am hanging around where I was meant to meet him, trying to find a way to get in contact with him.
Anyway I eventually manage to get hold of him via his friend contacting the girls he was with and he turns up 15 mins later at the place he was meant to meet me. I’m so annoyed that he hasn’t listened in making sure he was home by that time in the first place, that I’ve then had to go and collect him and he wasn’t there and also that he hasn’t kept enough battery to be able to contact me!
I’ve now said he’s not going out after school today and will be missing his rugby game tonight too as he’s just pushing the boundaries.
Am I being too harsh?! in terms of not letting him participate in the game. I just feel I need to do something that will get him to see he can’t be messing about like this especially late at night on a school night!