Relationship

[ByBreezySnail]

Help!
my 19 yr old is getting involved with a 38 yr old man.
please don’t say age is just a number. Yes she’s mature beyond a years one minute and the next just a kid. I don’t want to alienate her and push her towards him.
they met at work he’s going through a divorce with a 9 year old kid!
any opinion and suggestions are welcome

Do everything in your power to break this relationship up.

Thank you, that’s exactly how I feel I don’t believe this is healthy at all. I’ve tried explaining to her then yesterday lost it and told her exactly what I think …. Not the best cause of action

You may have to play the long game otherwise she will dig her heels in. Hopefully she will come to her senses.

Maybe explain to her if they make a go if it when she’s 60 she’ll be a live-in carer for an 80 year old?

Thank you, I’m so worried about her. She’s head strong but a good kid, I think she’s in love with love, which most teenagers are. I’m divorced and the father is absent to say the least, and I feel at my wits end.

Eurgh. I was in a relationship with a 33 year old divorced man at her age. My parents were very supportive and within about a year I had lost interest and met someone closer to my own age. I'd say play the long game, encourage him to visit the house so she sees he's closer to your age (I assume) than to hers, encourage her to bring him out with friends and let them do your dirty work and tell her to leave it alone.

Make friends with the man, invite him over, chat to him about things you have in common, music, fashion, memories of teenage years, tell DD what a nice man he is and how much you like him - parental approval is a massive turn off, plus being mum being buddies with your boyfriend is another no-no.
Good luck!!

Thank you,LadyChilli, sounds Like a good idea, she’s very aware her older siblings will not approve or her friends. I don’t want her to dig her heels in … she likes to prove a point. Great advice 🤗