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Kicked off group chat

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Jcsj · 28/09/2024 02:14

Hi all, I need some advice with my 15-year-old daughter. She had some friend troubles in 8th grade at her last school that we were at for 10 years. We just transferred to a new school this year in ninth grade and it’s 230 freshman girls at an all girls school. The last school was very small so I thought if she has friend trouble at this new school, there would be 200 other friends to choose from.

She started hanging out with a group of girls this summer and everything’s been going great for the last three months. Lots of new friends. lots of parties and she’s having a blast. But the last two weeks there was some boy drama and a boy picked my daughter over two other girls that liked him in the same friend group. So now all the girls won’t really talk to her or do things with her anymore. And they kicked her out of the group chat. When getting kicked out of the group chat, does this mean she’s dropped from the friend group?

My daughter is determined to hang out with these girls still and I’m trying to encourage her to meet others since we’re just brand new and we still have time to form groups. she wants to hang out with these girls. One of her best friends just stop texting her and they’ve all turned on her. This group of girls are the girls who hang out with the boys boys and go to parties. I think that’s why my daughter likes. Hanging out with them.

Do you think I should just stop asking about what’s going on with her and let her figure it out? Have y’all been in the situation before and they eventually find a new friend group? I’m just so worried that it’s too late to go into another group because all the friend groups are forming. They’ve only been in school for about a month. But she’s been hanging out with these girls for about three months.

thank you for any advice!

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AgileGreenSeal · 28/09/2024 09:34

Not got anything helpful to give in terms of advice, just thought you are a lovely person. And your daughter has a good mum. Big hug xx

areallmotherslikethis · 28/09/2024 09:40

Don't stop asking her what's going on if she's happy to open up

Gentle encourage her to make other friends - this is healthy.

Remind her she isn't always going to be at school and to maybe think about the kind of people she wants in her life.

She's 15. You can ask her some real questions. Such as, is this boy worth losing her friends for? Or, if these girls are ALL willing to drop her over a boy, are they her real friends?

Asking questions rather than stating, will encourage her to think about things and hopefully make some mature decisions about what's going on in her life.

Having said that, she's a teen. These things happen and usually work themselves out. But it never hurts to plant seeds.

Jcsj · 28/09/2024 14:54

areallmotherslikethis · 28/09/2024 09:40

Don't stop asking her what's going on if she's happy to open up

Gentle encourage her to make other friends - this is healthy.

Remind her she isn't always going to be at school and to maybe think about the kind of people she wants in her life.

She's 15. You can ask her some real questions. Such as, is this boy worth losing her friends for? Or, if these girls are ALL willing to drop her over a boy, are they her real friends?

Asking questions rather than stating, will encourage her to think about things and hopefully make some mature decisions about what's going on in her life.

Having said that, she's a teen. These things happen and usually work themselves out. But it never hurts to plant seeds.

Thank you. She has other friends at school but this group of girls is the group she hangs out with on the weekends. She doesn’t know I know a lot of this stuff because I’ve read some of her messages that she doesn’t know about.

do things really work themselves out in high school? I’m so worried she won’t have anyone to hang with on the weekends cuz she’s stuck on hanging out w this group .

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