Interested in other opinions on this.
DD15 came home from hanging out with friends with a bag full of crap she had brought packs of chocolate cakes, swiss rolls etc (she tried not to show me).
I was annoyed as I had given her $15 to buy bubble tea not bring home loads of crap.
We also don't allow snacking in bedrooms so told her to leave it downstairs.
We already eat plenty of sugar and treats and actually deny very little (in no way 'strict') but lately I have been trying to make healthier choices eg homemade banana choc muffins after school, or a smoothy with greek yogurt (I know these also have sugar, but they are better than processed junk.) I am happy to buy requests such as a bag of doritos and we always have ice cream and chocolate in the cupboard so I'm really not the food police.
As I said to DD I understand coming home with a chocolate bar or bag of crisps but to be stockpiling junk is not on. I know from past experience she will take it upstairs and scoff the lot in a day or two. (she was doing this secretly last year I found 3 x large oreo packs in the recyling bin one week).
I know teenagers like to eat junk and make unhealthy choices, but this seems like something else is going on.
To me if she is hungry I would rather she make some toast or just ate more at meal times.
I've said this is not on while she is living at home for the next few years and that if she chooses to do this once she is an adult or at college then that was up to her.
Have I over reacted?