Advice needed. I have always really admired my DDs independence and she has generally had quite a quirky sense of style which I have encouraged. However we have hit puberty and her "don't care" tom boy attitude has now shifted into "don't give a monkeys" about how she is dressing/looking on a daily basis. Managing her personal hygiene has gone downhill and frequently she goes out of the house looks like she is living out of a shopping trolley on the street (I jest, it is not quite that bad yet).
She is 13 and the personal hygiene bit is improving, but she still refuses to tidy herself up a bit more generally. I am not talking about asking a lot here, but caring about whether your shoes are clean or caked in mud when going to someone's house, or wearing a clean hoodie as opposed to one with tomato ketchup down the front, or making sure she has rinsed her face properly after using soap so she hasn't got marks on her face.
Anyway, as she is getting older we now have the combined issue of her caring even less and her school "mates" commenting, and consequently she has come home this week and complained as she can't understand it.
Any top tips on how to handle this? Do I let her work it out for herself or do I need to gently encourage more? I have been quite hands off as I get a lot of pushback from, and I am aware some of this is a body confidence thing as puberty settles, but I don't know where to begin as I wasn't like it and neither was my DH!