ok I may be completely selfish here but I like a glass of wine with dinner ..how do you deal with all the taxiing?

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I've had a couple of glasses-can't drive now.

DD (16)has just had invitation to go out but it's not walkable or busable.I have suggested taxi which I will pay for (guilty complex)and she is trying to phone around to see is any other parents are sober enough to drive .

God I feel awful ! How do you deal with these issues?
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I find myslef waiting until after I have had to drop them and try to do the drop rather than the pick up after

Same as Beety - always offer to take and hope some other kindly parent (who is less of a lush) will do pick up.

A couple of weeks ago dh and I had both had a drink when we got a phone call from ds2 who'd been unexpectedly let down by his lift. We dragged ds1 out of bed and sent him. Well he's got to have some uses.

Well this was a last minute arrangement.I thought she was staying in tonight.

Everything has just been rearranged to someone's house within walking distance -yeah!

DD knows if she wants a lift it HAS to be arranged in advance. We try to drop off but you have to pick up sometimes...

Luckily it's not too often, but she does know that Fri & Sat are the evenings we allow ourselves a drink (or three).. She won't get a taxi on her own, and I don't blame her really.

Still, they'll leave home one day

I don't drive so DH does the taxiing. He won't drink if he kmows he has to picn up one of our DDs.

I don't have a car, so it's either bus or they stay in.

My dd's don't know the meaning of the word...unless soomeone else is doing it!

Now I understand why everyone is so keen to offer to drop off my DC's to such things, and I then feel obliged to offer to pick up...... Doh!

Penny dropped dippy?

DH is teetotall and useless in the morning.
I do all the morning shifts unless ill or away.
The idea is that he will do all the evening shifts when they are teenagers.

All right for people who choose not to drive.

Mumeee-of course if you know you have to do a pick up you don't drink.

I was caught off guard as dd decided she wanted a lift after I'd had a few glasses of wine.

I just say no. And I don't drink. DD knows not to ask me at short notice unless in emergencies. DH on the other hand.......

She rang me from a friends earlier asking me to pick up her and her friend at 8pm and bring them home for a sleepover. I said walk. She walked.

I send dh who rarely drinks and, if he does, never drinks enough to put him over the limit. If he had drunk enough though, I'd tell them to get a taxi and pay for it.

I send dh who rarely drinks and, if he does, never drinks enough to put him over the limit. If he had drunk enough though, I'd tell them to get a taxi and pay for it.

sory ggirl in that case we would probably ask them to see if another parent can pick them up or would pay for a taxi,

If it is a last minute thing and both DH and I have had a drink then DS1 (almost 16) simply cannot go unless he is prepared to walk/bus or arrange a lift.

Teenagers need to understand that their parents have a life too, and cannot be expected to put their own on hold in case they need a lift.

Mine have learned the hard way that at weekends, any lifts have to be negotiated in advance or they stay in.

BTW, you are not selfish. To be constantly on call for lifts is doormat behaviour IMO.