No matter what we do for her, we always fall short it seems. Visit to uni open will cost £170 by train. I said if you really want to go, we have to cancel our weekend away. But she says that weekend is the ONLY thing she asked for, not true.i apparently failed to work out what other trips she would want.its up to me to work out what, where and when.if I ask her opinion she just says ^dunno/ whatever". So I arrange something she's not happy about, she goes off in a sulk. Dh then says I should negotiate with her, life is tough for her. (not true - comfortable and stable homelife, good freinds, no serious money worries). I could cry in frustration because I have to go to her and say how can we arrange everything to suit you? Or Dh says I'm not being fair! And the guilt of that is worse. Ps dh mother has life long mental illness that has totally screwed his thinking. And he is desperate to please, whatever the cost.