mothers

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i found my mums account on here and i know shes been sharing things about me and my sibling for years. ive asked her to stop as i dont want things about me on the internet - no matter how anonymous they may seem. i have no idea if she has but surely im not the only one who doesnt think its appropriate to share so much of your childs life without their consent for random strangers to see??? i especially think this as ive now also seen some of the nasty comments complete STRANGERS have made about me and my character (she has told me about them before so it wasnt exactly surprising to see them but stopped telling me once i told her not to share stuff) and i just think this is completely inappropriate.

just a psa for any parents posting out there: post what your children would be comfortable seeing. remember you dont know anyone on here. stop with the nasty comments and stop oversharing. the people on here are not your friends; they are strangers.

Stop stalking your mum online. How would you like it if she was doing that to you?

wasnt exactly stalking, not like it was hard to find lmao

Have you never moaned about your mum online, or to your friends?

perhaps you’ll be a parent yourself one day, you’ll then realise that it is a very difficult job and yet the most important one we’ll ever do.

Sometimes parents need a different perspective, there is no manual for this job. In order to get this perspective your mother needs to share certain details. It is an anonymous forum, no one knows who you are.

Perhaps look into your own behaviour and consider what you need to change?

not to strangers on the internet until now, that's the problem i have here.

it was nothing about my behaviour, just school options and commenting on how i was doing and yet that still somehow paved the way for rude comments which my mum felt the need to share with me. im literally just trying to navigate my own life and there was no need for that to be made public, no matter how anonymous it was. i dont think it's okay to post such an in depth view of your children's lives to strangers - especially when i asked her not to as it made me uncomfortable.

I can see your perspective, but in fact, it is really helpful for mums to be able to seek advice from other people on an anonymous basis.

Being able to see a situation through lots of different lenses and perspectives is only a good thing. Your mum has probably asked because she cares about you and has your best interests at heart - even if it might not feel like that to you.

Sometimes it can actually be more difficult/embarrassing to ask for advice from friends ‘in real life’ because then we have to admit to struggles or similar. And lots of our real life friends are actually just the same as we are (that’s why they are friends) and so they might not have diversity of thought, or different opinions like strangers might. And perhaps our friends might not be honest either - whereas a stranger probably will be.

All in all, these forums are definitely anonymous and nobody knows who you, or your mum are. But you should be pleased that your mum is spending time getting advice - even if you don’t like it much.