DD ex boyfriend

[meg505]

Hi all,

DD is 15 and broke up with her bf in march. He was her first proper boyfriend and i think they were sleeping together but im unsure. When they broke up, bf told DD that DD's childhood best friend liked him. As you could imagine, DD was heartbroken. Apparently the friend and bf got together 5 hours after the split, DD was completely beside herself with anger! She's always struggled with her mental health and this only declined after the split. Bf has forced his way into friends family holiday and friend has posted photos all over social media. The pair have even walked by our house in the evenings on several occasions (we live on a dead end road!).

How do I help DD and the situation? She returns to school in yr11 next week and I'm concerned her mental health will cause her to muck up her exams. I tell her to get over it as it has been 6months now and have suggested counselling, but she just yells at me!

PLEASE HELP!

Get her off of social media for a start.

Why do you think k they were sleeping together? Did you allow him to stay over in DDs bedroom?

Get her off social media. Tell her to raise her head high and accept that the pair of them are twats and have treated her like shit.

Tell her that when she returns to school she should just avoid friend if possible. If friend says anything about boy tell DD to laugh and say, 'I wouldn't date someone else's ex like you have done. But crack on. He's not worth it, and he'll probably shit all over you. I've got a bit more self respect' and then WALK AWAY.

She's done nothing wrong and she needs to try and accept that you can't change other people's behaviour, only your own reaction to it.

Aww I feel for her OP
Off social media or block them both so she doesn't see the posts/pics.
As for school she needs to hold her head high and ignore, it a hard lesson to learn young. Dd needs to understand people can be cruel in pursuit of there own happiness, doesn't mean she has to be.

Your poor DD. What a terrible betrayal. It's a double whammy for her. I agree with the others I'd absolutely get her off Facebook. Then I'd do for her what I'd so if I had a break up. I'd then take her for or buy her a spa day (if she's got another good friend to go with). I'd pay for her to have a glam up (if you can afford it). I'd eat loads of ice-cream and let her have a cry.

Oh, I'd also have a word with their parents about the walk bys. That's just cruel.

No chance would I do this

She needs to get off social media ans focus on school, she needs to move on wallowing is not healthy and I would stay out of it it would only give her more ammunition to focus on it

Being upset at first is normal but perspective is needed

I tell her to get over it as it has been 6months now

Do you think that’s helping?

This is horrible.

Keep boosting her self esteem. Remind here that these peoples choices don't reflect her worth. Lots of people love and like her.

There are plenty of boys and friends out there and neither of these can be nice people from their behaviour so it is no great loss although of course it hurts.

Remind her that they are the weirdos that they keep following her. An ex and the woman he cheated on me with did this to me in my 20s it's such strange behaviour.

Encourage her to block or un follow them on social media.

She's blocked them both on instagram. She is really a lovely girl (definitely biased) but struggles a lot to accept its OVER. They were on and off for ages, and I think she's struggling to grasp it's really over. Thank you all for your wonderful advice :)

Your dd must not rise to the bait in relation to the walk bys. That will stop if they don’t get the reaction they’re looking for and they will begin to feel foolish if no one appears to notice them.