DD16 drunk last night...

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We know she and her friends have small amounts of alcohol.

Last night she asked us to pick her up from a party at 9pm...in her text she said she'd been sick, was feeling dizzy and she kept apologising.

She "said" she'd had 3 vodka and oranges. She very slim, there's not alot of her.

She slept in with me, I propped her up on her side and stayed awake, checking her breathing.

She was upset and asked me if she'd still be alive in the morning!

To scare her off drinking that much again I felt like saying, Hopefully!

I know it's a rite of passage and I did exactly the same thing at 15 but it really scared me...and her, which is good news.

Any suggestions please on the calmest, most sensible advice to give her, without turning it into a huge taboo.
Should there be a punishment? DH said to tell her if it happens again she won't be allowed to go to any more parties, I agree with this.
From her reaction last night, I don't think she'll be doing this again for a long time...but who knows

I know youngsters drink.. now I'm a parent it's different!

She's asleep in her own bed now.
She actually wet herself in my bed which really shocked her.

My DP vomited up about 5 jagerbombs in my car as we exited a roundabout on our way home from a wedding

I was furious and went out alone the next day (took his car!), came home to a fully valeted car. He scrubbed all the sick out and then took it to have it professionally cleaned, cost him £50 but he fully deserved it for getting so drunk!

She was upset and asked me if she'd still be alive in the morning!

OP this made me snort with laughter 🤣 the poor girl.

I think just this once the hangover/fear is enough of a punishment, but obviously impress on her that it can’t happen again. She had 3 drinks but I’m sure there was more than one measure of vodka in each, maybe that’s why she got so sick.

My first time being drunk at 15 the police called my dad to come collect me, he put me in the back of the car & didn’t utter a word to me the whole way home. The silence put such a fear into me and it’s still the worst ‘punishment’ I’ve ever received! My dad is such a chill and chatty person so he laughs about it now and said the worst thing he could think to do to me was be silent!

It sounds as though she drank a lot more than three drinks, OP. There's no chance one of them might have been spiked, is there?

My children are old enough to have been drunk under pub drinking age and I have to say that it never once occurred to me that this was something that should be punished.

Ime it's a normal part of growing up for most of us, total non biggie for me

Definitely no punishment. Everyone I know did this in their teens, including myself, and it's a punishment in itself, and a learning curve! Maybe talk to her about how to drink more sensibly, for example vodka and orange is easy to drink fast and can be very strong, maybe drinking something else instead that isn't as strong, also drinking plenty of water, eating first, having breaks. Telling her not to drink again is pointless. I think it's good she felt comfortable to call you for her, she needs to know she can always do that.

Same. Old Bushmills Irish Whiskey to be precise. 16 years old and god was I ill. I can't even stand the smell or taste of any whisky, even in puddings.

First and last time? 😁

I did once years ago but DH managed to pull over and I opened the door, my nice new straw bag fell out and I vomited over that.
I think I'm allergic to vodka, never touched it since.

I did far worse than DD at her age. She has only started 'drinking' this summer since she finished A-levels and its only been a handful of times. She thinks shes is 'drunk' but its nothing compared to the state we all used to get into as teens!

My stance is that teens are going to do this sort of thing regardless and punishments and recriminations are just going to force them to be more sneaky. I want my kids to be open and honest with them (so I can judge how safe they are being) and for them to know that no matter what state or trouble they have got into they can call me and I will come get them, I don't want them to be too scared of my reaction so they don't call and end up in a worse state.

I'd have videoed mine with the soundtrack of me and her dad laughing our arses off at the poor bugger. Mine is off to University now and at least she won't be new to having a drink with her mates when she does (I do have strict rules around this though, no nasty drinks I'm looking at you white lightening and Buckfast, no drinking outside of a safe place such as a friends house or the pub and no taking risks and doing stupid stuff). She's a very sensible girl who enjoys a night out too. Probably in a way that was much better than we all did when we were young.

Talk to her about size of measures....we're the vodka and oranges pub measures or was it someone mixing by eye at a party. Vodka is very palatable in orange juice and if they were large measures no wonder she was so sick. Show her how much standard measure is in a glass. Also talk about spreading the alcoholic drinks out a bit, have a soft drink in between so you don't knock back more booze than you can handle too quickly.

I'd be proud she called you, asked for a lift and allowed you to care for her.

That takes some trust and she didn't hide at all mates house.

For punishment I think she's learnt from her own consequences, the bed wetting id be mortified!