Help! I have 4 children and my 16yr old is just so rude (he’s my second born). The others aren’t, 20, 15 and 8 so I just don’t know how to deal with him. He’s always been difficult, attitude, kicks off, disrespectful and rude and I’ve dealt with it, probably too leniently, by grounding him, taking his Xbox, phone etc but it’s not got any better over the years. He doesn’t see when he’s wrong, it’s always everyone else, he breaks everything - punches doors so 4 have been broken, his desk, bedroom unit, tv, the printer and now today his sisters chest of drawers! Which has started another argument because he didn’t tell me until I noticed and asked him and he didn’t even care. He was rude to me twice last week so already we’re not on the best terms, it’s his birthday on Tuesday, I was going to buy him a car but decided a while back that until his attitude improves I’m not and I’ve stuck to. But he’s going to boardmasters on Wednesday and I was going to take him, stay over until Thursday and then come home and we go back for the weekend on Friday to bring him home on Monday. So it’s going to be long (it’s a 4 hour drive each way) but I was willing to do it. Now I’ve told him I’m not because of his attitude to me and the fact he breaks things and just doesn’t care. His friends have already apparently all sorted lifts so can’t go with them. I feel awful, does anyone have any suggestions on how to deal with him? I know he’s more than likely being a teenager but I can’t stand the rudeness and it’s been going on for years. It’s how he talks to me more than anything, not what he’s saying (although some of the things he says are horrible). Just to add, outside of the house he’s lovely to other people, he’s very polite and he has really nice friends.