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I think my son is dealing drugs. Advice needed

10 replies

Fritton0505 · 02/08/2024 20:47

My 16 year old son has been smoking weed the last few months with his friends.
They have now moved onto ketamine. One of his friends has already ended up being taken to hospital in an ambulance.
He has come home several times under the influence but always denies it.
This past week I have found him on two occasions taking it in his bedroom and I have found a bag of it in the house which he had dropped.
I am also concerned that he may be dealing. Lots of phone calls, staying out all night, new friends, not asking for money and secretive.
He can't see that he is doing anything wrong as all his friends are doing it.
We have tried talking to him, shouting but nothing is working. My instinct is to go to the police and report him as I am worried what is going to happen.
Any advice or help?

OP posts:
vodkaredbullgirl · 02/08/2024 20:56

You answered your own question, report him to the police.

ButterCrackers · 02/08/2024 20:58

Straight to the police. You are helping him by reporting this now rather than later.

Mumlifebalance · 08/02/2025 23:01

Fritton0505 · 02/08/2024 20:47

My 16 year old son has been smoking weed the last few months with his friends.
They have now moved onto ketamine. One of his friends has already ended up being taken to hospital in an ambulance.
He has come home several times under the influence but always denies it.
This past week I have found him on two occasions taking it in his bedroom and I have found a bag of it in the house which he had dropped.
I am also concerned that he may be dealing. Lots of phone calls, staying out all night, new friends, not asking for money and secretive.
He can't see that he is doing anything wrong as all his friends are doing it.
We have tried talking to him, shouting but nothing is working. My instinct is to go to the police and report him as I am worried what is going to happen.
Any advice or help?

Don't report him to the police, he'llget criminal record and wont bw able to work legally. Kick him out and take his key off him.
Let him know you won't have a drug dealer living in your house. You've got to be tough on him.

Addeline · 08/02/2025 23:07

I’d ask if social services can help you. They can work with him to hopefully turn things around. It’s a safeguarding issue. You can’t keep him safe. That’s the direction I’d try myself. Do you have younger dc?

JoyousPinkPeer · 08/02/2025 23:10

I think I'd get some advice from somebody with experience. He's heading one way though so you need to act fast.

FrauPaige · 08/02/2025 23:24

The question is where he gets the drugs from - a gang. That means he is the victim of grooming.

He needs support with exiting the gang and with addressing his issues with substance abuse. The root causes of his involvement with the gang also need to be addressed - apathy about future prospects, any traumas and other social vuknerabilities.

Obviously he also needs to acknowledge that what he is doing is wrong so that he can be truly rehabilitated and not reoffend.

Simply entering him into the criminal justice system may not effectively achieve this goals.

sparklypinkgoblin · 08/02/2025 23:25

Police, every time.

FirmNewt · 08/02/2025 23:30

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vodkaredbullgirl · 08/02/2025 23:30

OP hasn't been back since this post started or when some of us answered.

CharlotteSometimes1 · 08/02/2025 23:31

Is it county lines? I’d contact the Police.

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