Am I expecting too much

[Dipsydoodle2]

My dd is 16 and generally a good kid.
However, I am getting more and more frustrated at the lack of support around the house and the expectation that I will do everything for her. If I ask her to do any small chore then I get a grumble or a complaint that her younger sisters dont have to do this (they do). I understand that she is a teenager and I am happy to do the lions share of the cooking/cleaning, however it would be nice if there was a little bit more gracious help!!

Am I expecting too much or is it perfectly usual for a teen to be mildly selfish in their attitude?!! What can I do to help her understand that it’s nice to do things for others sometimes??

I have three teens and I'd say this is completely normal OP!

Dotn fall into the trap of thinking that asking her to do chores = doing something nice for others, it doesn't! She'd be pulling her weight in the house in which she lives, nothing more. It isn't a favour she owes you or a 'nice to do' it's an essential part of cohabiting at home. I'd start being pretty firm with a list of chores she must do per day/week/month and a conversation to reset her expectation that they are optional and can be grumbled about. You'll be doing her more favours in the long term by making her independent and responsible now and she won't just see you as her skivvy.

I'd agree completely normal, but keep at it and hopefully she will eventually come out the other side and be a reasonable person again.

Completely normal but don't give up telling her to do things. She'll probably move out in a few years and will need these skills when she has her own place or has to share with others!