My much younger cousin (11 years old) is dropped off at my grandmothers home for his summer holidays every year. He is from another country which means this is a 3 month period of her “looking after him”. The kindest words to describe the kid would be selfish and disrespectful.
He makes my grandmothers life a living hell for 3 months and has given her endless amount of stress.
Some examples include screaming for a massage till he falls asleep every night (she has severe arthritis) some night she will be putting herself in exrutiating pain massaging him for hours till silly times in hope for a few hours of sleep herself. Going on hunger strike till she serves him every meal in bed (she is in her mid 70s). Calling her vile names and being physical in some cases when he doesn’t get his way. I could go on and on!
I have tried speaking with my auntie to stop sending him to her but she works 9-5 and cannot afford childcare.
My grandmother is the most caring woman who would do anything for her family so suggesting that he should stop coming to her is out of the question.
I come over when I can to help with him but he has the least respect for me than anyone in the world so I am not much help. My grandmother will give into him because she doesn’t want his moods to escalate. It brakes my heart and I really need some advice!
The whole family know of the situation but it doesn’t seem like anyone cares.
The kid has been to therapy seen countless mental health specialists and is on adhd medication but nothing seems to help.