During COVID

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Just been wondering if you were vulnerable but had healthy teenagers how did you "manage" their socialising during COVID (when people were allowed to meet up and socialise).

When the clubs and pubs returned to full capacity were you worried about them "bringing the virus back to you"?

The reason I ask is that is that I know a young lad who didn't have the best time even outside of the stay at home orders.

He told us the summer of 2020 he didn't go out at all. Even after the stay at home order was lifted he didn't meet any friends due to his one of his DParents having pre-existing heart issues.

He then just commuted to university until the January 2021 lockdown and his parents didn't really want him spending much time on campus in the first place.

Even after getting vaccinated and in the 2021 unlockings his parents were hesitant for him to go to big crowds and gatherings (pubs and clubs etc).

Thankfully this is all in the past and he's got an active and buzzing social life. But I do feel sorry for him.

His parents are selfish and have denied him a key part of his university life due to THEIR issues and concerns. It’s not all about bars and parties, but making him feel guilty about being on campus? I am glad it has worked out for this lad in the long run.

They would have preferred him just to do the online classes. But the lad insisted on the in person socially distanced classes.

Even when things "opened up" they were hesitant about him going to campus to revise/meet friends

Dear Lord. It gets worse. Me me me me me me me. Isn’t being a parent about putting your kids first? I hope the lad stood up to them and told the to jog on. Doubt that relationship will ever fully heal.

Poor lad. Glad he’s ok now. I’d say there were plenty of teens and children in similar position.

I suppose “pre existing heart condition “ is a bit vague. Does it mean some high cholesterol or recently had a heart transplant?

Either way in my opinion the parent should have isolated within the house and not restricted their sons university experience, which was probably fairly dire anyway given the circumstances.

Yes high cholesterol. The DParent was at a higher risk of a serious COVID infection so yes the family made the decision to be extra cautious.

My DH has high cholesterol, type 2 diabetes and yes we were careful but we also had children during the lockdowns we had 3 children at 3 different schools (primary, secondary and 6th form) and then (secondary and university). We followed the rules but understood it was important that our children had a 'normal' life as possible. DH also had to go to the office twice a week

Oh and some how we have managed to avoid catching Covid so far.

I'm glad he now living his life like he wants.

Yes he's doing well and his family are also better.

Just COVID was tough for them. But fortunately all are healthy and well

the family made the decision to be extra cautious.

I wonder how much was the family sitting down and discussing it together and how much was the parent (s) dictating/guilt tripping from on high. A bit like when some of DDs friends were pretty well forced to apply for medicine as "the family" decided they should become a doctor....

Oh gosh. Yeah, that's really sad. I'll be upfront and say that the DParent was at significantly increased risk and that the family had lost relatives in other countries.

This lad btw chose his favourite subject at uni, his parents obviously supported him and he is doing a job he likes.