What age do you allow bf/gf to stay over?

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DS 15 has recently told me that he is gay and his best friend is also his bf. They have been dating for 6 weeks and in that time he has stayed over however I did not know they were in a relationship as DS did not feel ready to tell me.
He has asked if his bf can carry on sleeping over, I don't know what to do he has been staying over for the past 3 months, if I say no now he might think I disapprove on the relationship.

I’d say it’s probably a bit late now but I do think 15 is young.

The law says 16.. My dc known to to ask under 16. Tell ds you are just being mindful of the law not judging their relationship.. Imo of you bend for some rules you can't stuck to others like the alcohol limit..

Of course it's not too late.

I had this dilemma I realised after about 4 months my daughter's friend was probably more than just that - my dd is a bit older and was already 16.5 in the end I carried on letting her stay over.

She still hasn't actually been open with me about it though - we don't discuss it but I am assuming I am making the right assumption.

We said 18 but it was 20 for our son. DD not asked.

I would reassure him that I liked the boyfriend and I approved of the relationship. But I’d go on to say they the law is the law and I’d treat my hetero kids in the same way ie not allow underage sleepovers.

I would say no and just be clear if he had a GF rather than a BF you would also say no because he is 15.

Does the other boys parents know and are they ok with him staying over knowing they are seeing each other ? I'd say mom personally there has to be boundaries regardless of orientation.

How near to 16 is your son and is his bf the same age?

This. And personally I wouldn't be in a rush to invite a bf/gf over to stay the night for a few years yet!

It will be 18 minimum here. When DC has a place at university; fine. So, 18 and a month or so. Not before, for a miriad of reasons.

15 is far too young. For a miriad of reasons.

I had bfs in my 30s and we had to sleep in separate rooms at parents house!😂

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They are both 15, DS turned 15 in April and bf in March

'I love you son but 15 is too young to give a partner sleep over. Its not legal'.

@LizzeyBenett yes bf parents know too, they have a larger house so when DS has stayed at theirs he has slept in the spare room.

I have had a similar issue with dd and her boyfriend they are both 15.
They have been best friends for over a year and in that time have had multiple sleepovers in groups of mixed sexes for parties etc.
I know the parents and have continued to allow her to stay over. He will be 16 in August and my daughter will be 16 2 weeks later. I have told them for the 2 weeks they aren't both the same age no sleepovers. They only stay at his not mine as he has a double bed whereas she has a single one.
Am I doing the wrong thing? Maybe maybe not but I know I wasn't allowed at her age and was having sex in fields and car parks...I would much rather know she is safe in a house.

My rule was after GCSEs but as you say that bird has somewhat flown