Girls and friendship squabbles/dynamics. How to help?

[ladyandthechocolate]

DD is 15 and in year 10. She’s had a great group of friends since year 7 but in the last 6 months it’s completely fractured. One has gone off and joined another group and blanks them. Another just randomly goes quiet and won’t say what’s wrong. You get the gist. DD wants to try to improve things but nobody seems to want to engage or they all just talk about each other behind their backs.

Anyway, it’s making DD so sad 😢 she really has to drag herself to school at the moment.
I don’t know how help. It’s just so bloody pointless but I remember similar from when I was that age. Does it get better?!
The summer holidays can’t come quick enough..

I wouldn't get involved. Make sure she knows she can talk to you and suggest things to distract maybe even a new hobby where she might, as a happy byproduct, make new friends.

I can remember being utterly miserable like this at 15. I had a think about who I liked out of the girls on my year outside of my immediate friendship group and called one of them up and asked her if she'd like to go to town on Saturday. We've been firm friends ever since.

Perhaps it's time for DD to start to talk to other people?

Thanks, I’m not getting involved but when friendships are so important it’s hard isn’t it?!

I will try to encourage friendships outside of her group.

I remember this phase so well.
I think it's important to work on DD's self esteem so she feels secure in her own thoughts/opinions and you're always a constant, and then she will learn to navigate these issues. It's a good learning curve - toxic people tend to appear in work and life after all!