You're only as happy as your saddest child

[mindexplode]

Or something like that is a quote.
My 15 year old son was dumped today, he's very sad. We've talked about it and I've asked him to stop sending Snapchats to her as it was getting intense. As a logical adult I know time is the only healer but I feel for him, he doesn't understand why she broke up with him.
Luckily they are at different schools so at least Monday isn't going to be difficult.
I'm trying to distract him but he doesn't want to eat or play ps4, his favourite things.

He needs to grieve - first love is so intense, as is the grief when it ends. As you say, we know that time will mend it for him, but that is not how he is feeling just now. Just be there for him and do not expect that he will get over it very quickly.

I think if your "saddest child" is a dumped 15 year old, you don't have many problems tbh.

I remember being dumped myself at that age. I think the first couple of days are the worst, then it gets better. The good thing is that he feels he can share his feelings with you. I had to keep everything to myself as my mum would have made a huge drama of it and got on the phone to everyone she knew to talk about it in a loud voice. It's good your son can trust you enough to tell you.

Here we go… competitive parent alert 🙄

I agree with the title by the way.

@Mischance @StrawberryFlowers thanks for the words, it's so hard yo see your child in pain but I let him know that it will hurt and he might feel angry and that's OK but don't fo anything you regret.

@saveforthat wow how right you are, you know everything about my life and my children. Not just a snapshot of today.

FFS. Oh for the days when teenage angst was discussed with your mates and you didn't run to mummy for everything.

Slow clap for you.

@saveforthat I will say this and no more. There are teenagers no longer alive in my wider friendship group because of things happening in their life. The incidences of teenage suicide are horrific. I will always check in with my teens about emotional and physical issues to help them. That's my job.

You sound like a good mum. Hopefully saveforthat doesn't have kids as s/he'd be a crap parent

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It's horribly true and it doesn't seem to matter how old you or your children get, it's still true when they're adults.

Nothing hurts more than seeing your child in pain.

You can't make the pain go away. He has to go through it and he will grow and develop from it.

But, you can be with him while he goes through it, providing food, drink, company, distraction and sympathy.

Mumsnet bingo comment 🙄

@saveforthat

Oh jog on ya muppet

Ah come on, do you not remember how hard it was to be dumped for the first time? Your world ends as you know it.

Bless him OP. It's a time thing sadly and with the added stress that they have access to SM. I'm really glad we didn't have internet when I was a teenager.

Fav foods and space I think. I play Xbox with mine when hes having a tough time. Helps him to chat when he side by side.

Why is everyone so unpleasant? I would say @saveforthat probably has a child who is going through something much worse than this.

In the kindest possible way @mindexplode he may be sad but he'll get over it and you're being a tad dramatic IMO, the thread title made me think something much worse was going on. Of course you should support him but he'll get over it in time, particularly as he has you minding his back.