How do you help your teen when they have a negative mindset?
DD is pretty, really intelligent, has hobbies which she is talented at but she has a really negative mindset. She’s just finished her GCSEs and she’s just been moaning that one of her friends is at a festival and that one of her relatives has done a singing gig at a local pub. She’s really into singing and music so I appreciate that she’d like to do these things but why does she have to be so mopey about it? She is going to a couple of concerts over the summer (not cheap ones either!) and I’ve suggested she/we speak to the local pub about doing a few songs at their open mike night. Not sure she’d have the confidence but we can try. We already pay for singing/music lessons. She always seems to think everyone is having a better life/time than she is.
Ive suggested she look for a little job over the summer which may give her something to focus on now exams are over and to develop her confidence/self esteem.
She is a lovely girl but it really gets to me when she is like this as she gets really down and fed up but she can’t see how lucky she is to have the opportunities we give her and the support of 2 loving parents.
my other two children are really different and have a much more resilient and laid back attitude to life.