Phone rules - 16 year old

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My 16 year old is campaigning to have the phone in her bedroom at night to 1) listen to music 2) read fan fiction 3) use the alarm. She feels she should be able to choose when she uses it, and has said that she feels she needs to learn by herself how to control her own use (and make and learn from her mistakes). She also says (of course) that none of her friends have any restrictions.
We have pointed out that it is difficult for many adults to put the phone down, and the makers of the phones have engineered it so they are addictive.
Currently the only limits are not at meals, and plugged in downstairs at night. Generally she is in good relationship to us. Not too much activity aside from school though.
What are your rules?
Do you leave them to it, or do you have agreements?

I would say that once she's done her exams, she can have unlimited access to her phone over the summer.

16 as in already left school or 16 as in doing GCSEs now? If she's doing her GCSEs now then now is not the time to make this change but after exams absolutely.

Mine had to turn off the phone and leave it downstairs until they had completed GCSE’s.

Yes this is what we're doing. Restrictions staying in place until exams are over.

Yes - doing GCSEs at the moment. We were thinking of keeping things as they are until exams are over (soon, thankfully!). I guess I also had what would happen at 6th form in mind, as it is tricky to claw things back after precedence has been set.

My DD is 15 and I still have parental controls on her phone but only for downtime. So most things are locked overnight except music, radio, alarm, so she can have it in her room to listen to things.

Say yes to after gcses but with clawback provisions, eg if too tired for 6th form / gets grumpy then rules reintroduced.

I am very strict with mobiles and it’s a hard no on phones in bedrooms overnight until they are 18 and have finished school. It is a pain having to ensure they are out every night but we all sleep better and I’m not worried what the kids are getting up to/who they are talking to overnight.

My DS is 16 and still puts phone in kitchen on charge overnight

I would say no - and offer a kindle? If she wants to read at night.

As an adult I have massively destroyed my own sleep by reading on my phone at night - if the phone is there it is so so so addictive and hard to ignore.

She still has her A levels to get through - I would hold hard for now.