Family Link

[Nonameatall77]

I’m after some advice / insight please.
We have a dd16 & dd14. They both have phones and have always been on our Family link (android) or the IPhone screentime. I don’t check it but have in the past restricted screen times as a punishment for things. ( last time was a long time ago as I don’t tend to use that any more).

Dd14 got a new phone and asked to have family link temporarily removed so she could install apps. She said that otherwise I’d be bombarded with requests to approve etc. I agreed and said we’d put family link back on again afterwards. She agreed to that.

Guess what, she now refuses to have familie link back on. I don’t know her password, so can’t do it myself.
She says no-one her age has any kind of parental control and flat out refuses to cooperate.

I would really appreciate if parents of 14 yr olds could let me know if they have family link / iPhone screen time and have their phones connected to their teen phones, or if I am u reasonable?
many thanks!

Confiscate the phone until she allows it on

Everyone I know with teenagers has it on all up to when they leave school and my children will be doing the same.

Things like this are for safety and are a non negotiable part of having tech here

Take the phone off her straight away. Who does she think she is?

Thank you - yes, that’s my view too. Good to have it confirmed!

Definitely confiscate phone. Non negotiable. I don't mind being bombarded with app requests.

I have an almost 13 and almost 16 year old - they both have screen time restrictions on their phones and I know their passwords. I don't have a need to look at their phones much but just in case.

Yes, we have Family Link on 14yo DD's phone. We took it off our eldest DD's phone when she was 16, but 14? Definitely!

Even if I agreed with her this is absolutely no way to go about it! Had she ever discussed it with you before?

Yes, I have family link and screen time on my 14yo DC’s devices. I would confiscate the phone and/or cancel her contract. The devices that I give to my children are a privilege, not a right, and can be withdrawn at any time.

At 16 we got an email to say ds was no longer under our control if you know what I mean. I’d talk to her but when you’re all calm about sleep, attitude etc and how even adults can’t really regulate this crap!!! We’ve a lot more games nights, days out etc going on to try to wean them off, but are also letting them off a bit more because in the next few years it’s going to be on them. it’s hard!!!