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Feel like I'm going mad

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minimees · 21/05/2024 10:37

First time posting here so bear with me.

I have a teenage daughter (16) who seems to be unhappy all the time. She grew up in Australia and we have been back in the uk for 4 years now.
She had a very bad break up with her first proper boyfriend last year who likes to play a lot of mind games with her over social media when they finished, I told her to block him but she liked the fact that they were in contact and went against my advice. Anyway I had to get the school involved as she ended up losing 16kg of weigh and had to seek medical intervention with her in the way on anti-depressants...........she had to have the torture of seeing him every day which was very hard for her. Anyway we are now 12 months down the line and shes put the weight back on and has nearly moved on from the breakup though it cost her mental health at the time.
3 weeks after the breakups she was assaulted by one of her friends in the shopping centre, this girl was fuelled on drugs and carrying a blade, she managed to get away and the police dealt with it and we managed to get a CPN order on this girl and she was then kicked out of school luckily. Anyway her friendship group have supported her in all this, especially her best friend.
now I have a situation that her best friend has now gone off with another girl who has a car and my daughter is left out. Her best friend is now ignoring her calls and messages and does not include her in anything anymore. I feel so sorry for my daughter she's had a very turbulent 12 months and can see the sadness in her eyes. She cried her eyes out to me the other night wondering why she always gets hurt, she gave her friendships/relationship 110% but seems to always get used or hurt.
My question is as a mum what can I do, I feel like I spend most my days worrying about her.

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Imisscoffee2021 · 21/05/2024 10:44

That's such alot to deal with for her but it's imperative she doesn't feel this is a cycle that will continue forever or that she somehow deserves/attracts these kinds of relationship problems or it can become a self fulfilling prophecy :( wish you all the best, sorry can't give more advice.

KikiShaLeeBopDeBopBop · 21/05/2024 10:47

Agree with first poster but it's hard to convey when someone's doesn't have something else in their world to compare it to. We all get trapped by our own bubbles at times.

Would it help to share stories of your experiences of friendship breakdown & loneliness op?

Or could you enroll her in activities away from school, of affordable, like a drama club or hobby or sports group?

paprikaforever · 21/05/2024 10:50

how is she doing at school?
did she have her gcses last year or this year?

minimees · 21/05/2024 10:51

paprikaforever · 21/05/2024 10:50

how is she doing at school?
did she have her gcses last year or this year?

She is currently right in the middle of sitting her GCSE's.......awful timing

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paprikaforever · 21/05/2024 10:57

minimees · 21/05/2024 10:51

She is currently right in the middle of sitting her GCSE's.......awful timing

goodness i wood have thought that would have been in your op

you need to make the next few weeks as solid and constant as possible. All about home and study.

And perhaps sit down with her and book a holiday for post exam for the two of you

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