Help for son struggling to deal with anger

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My teenage (13) son has been angry again tonight & the whole house suffers. He's recognised that he doesn't know how to deal with these feelings & has asked for help. He's also high functioning autistic.
I've looked for videos for coping strategies on youtube to send to him, but can't find anthing obvious.
Does anyobe know of anything that I could send him for him to learn from.
Many thanks

Check out CAPA first response, great organisation. They will probably tell you that you can address this from a relational point, i.e. from making changes to how you relate to him. Total opposite to him having to just work on himself, we have found their advice very effective!

DD is 18 now, and we don’t still have the angry outbursts - but at 13,14,15 we got them.
She is also high functioning autism, so maybe quite similar to your son.

We learned a lot from a mindfulness parenting course, the main thing was learning to leave her alone when she felt overwhelmed. Give her space, don’t keep going to see his she is … you can’t reason with someone who is out of control.

Recognise triggers, and try to minimalism them. We went very Low Demand. We also stopped all of that “removing devices and turning off the WiFi” - her games helped with her emotional regulation (now heading for a career in the gaming industry)

Don’t try to sit down and talk about “feelings”, have conversations when they are doing something they love .. like a side conversation. We chat whilst she is gaming, or we are on the car etc.

Thank you both. V helpful

Hi All
I would welcome any advice, as I have
a recently diagnosed high functioning autistic daughter. We have no support and she has no friends. She is very lonely and feels isolated. She struggles with anxiety when she meets new people and she's in a large group. This has caused difficulties with forming and maintaining friendships. She has recently be prescribed Sertraline and this has helped her to control her emotions

Any other suggestions for support would be really appreciated.

I don't want to simplify what you have to deal with. My understanding from my own experience is that overwhelm often feeds into the rage. Is there any way to remove unnecessary stressors or demands on him at the moment?
Is there scope to talk to him about what he feels overwhelmed with and between you find solutions. Even the demand of brushing teeth and showering everyday can feed into this.

We have talked so much about her emotions and how she's feeling. She really wants to make friends and form relationships with others and because of this she has attached herself to girls who aren't true friends just so that she's not alone