Out of control

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My teenager is out of control and I literally have no one who can give sensible advice.
he is 17. At college refusing to go.
refusing to get a job, I got him one and refused to attend.
tonight he had friend around and they were drinking. I offered food earlier twice and refused . When I was going to bed he demanded a McDonald’s and I said no. He is not threatening to smash my boyfriend’s face and smash my house up.
he also is speaking to me like im a teenager threatening shouting… etc.
my dad died recently .. he’s grieving. I got him mental health support and he is now refusing to go. There has been drug taking etc.
im literally at my wits end.

cut him off financially. where is his dad?

do you mean your dad, or his died recently

So my dad died. But he was my son’s father figure. The issues were there before this as my dad was very frustrated with it.
I don’t give him a great deal. The problem is when I say no he kicks off and threatens to do something.
his dad is of no use. Never engaged with him.

Sorry but you need to cut giving him any money at all. Also you need to involve police if he commits violence or at the least speak to social services- though due to his age they may
not be interested. He has to be aware that his behaviour has consequences or he will not stop. We stopped all money when drugs were in the mix and you need to lock things down to stop
access to any of your belongings. So sorry this is happening to you