DD skipping some classes

[NZBride]

So my 14 year old - almost 15 is in S3. She has a few classes that she doesn’t go to and claims she’s so stressed and anxious but can’t go into any kind of detail. I get constant messages from school and have had an email today asking me to go in for a meeting with Guidance Teacher next week! She is asking how we can support DD into going to classes. But given DD won’t talk to me what am I meant to say. She just called me mean and a bitch when I tried to talk to her about it. Please help.

We had this with our DD which was closely followed by almost total school refusal.

What is she doing instead of going to these classes and is it possible that she does the work. but away from the class?

Can you find out which classes she is skipping? Is it one subject? One Teacher? One pupil? she is trying to avoid?...

Would she mark up a timetable, highlighting the worst classes?? That might give you a starting point.

This is how my journey into having a child with ESBA began.

I think the red amber green colouring of
The timetable is a good idea to starting with.

Maths, English & Modern Studies mostly. Modern Studies is down to the teacher - she hates her.. not sure why as generally she’s well behaved and polite. I’ve never had a school report saying anything bad about her behaviour.. guidance are trying their best and when I say skipping school she’s not leaving the premises - but she’s not going to the actual class - she sits outside in the open learning areas. But I fear she’s missing too much of the teaching..